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My ex is ordered to pay what the judge termed a "token" amount of spousal support that the judge said would be greatly increased if I came back to court. I live in Sacramento and the divorce is in San Diego. I am disabled, my only other income is SSI and cannot afford to pay to get to San Diego and rent a motel room while there. He is now on unemployment, but is remarried and his wife earns a very good salary on job 1 plus works a part time job. She has one minor child who lives with them, another daughter who is over 18 and lives at her college. He has been late for 6 months now and will not use "her" income to pay me - he claims each month that EDD has not processed his claims. He has not applied for employment at places he would possibly been hired. He is waiting until UE runs out then will be eligible to begin using his retirement fund. We put more into that fund and none into one for me as his was potentially going to provide a much higher income. I am willing to continue the $300 a month support IF he could be made to pay it every month and ensure it arrives on or before the date it is due. Do I have any options to force that? If I have to go to court to ensure this continues I will then request a higher amount as his income with his wife's less valid expense for the 17 year old daughter is about 5 times what my SSI income is. And I will request a 50% share of his retirement as we were married exactly 26 year and six months. He was also abusive and our "legal court file" includes 3 TROs and the documentation proving abuse. What are my options? I do not wish to make "waves" but his being up to 3 1/2 weeks late costs me late charges for my monthly financial matters and forces me to go without items such as 3 meals a day, a hospital bed needed to support my fractured lower spine, a blood pressure monitor and accurate digital scale to monitor the congestive heart failure I have been in for the past year. I have phone and internet service, gas and lights, rent but no entertainment possibilities nor do I have TV service. Those have become unaffordable due to the irregularity of receiving my income when expected. TY in advance.