Lately,
fathers' custody rights have been the subject of news headlines... mostly
because of the Alec Baldwin case. Baldwin's voicemail message to his daughter Ireland shocked many who heard him call her a "thoughtless little pig." He later accused his
ex-wife, Kim Basinger of leaking the message in violation of a court order and
said his words were delivered out of misplaced frustration at his former wife.
Alec
Baldwin: The New Face of Fathers' Custody Battles?
The
Baldwin-Basinger case is now back in court. There was one hearing, which
essentially reinforced the previous court order forbidding either party from
communicating or leaking information to the media. There are rumors another
custody hearing could happen in the future.
Men
Make up Custodial Minority
Alec
Baldwin is far from being alone in his fight for equal access to his children
after a divorce. According to a Census report, only 15% percent of custodial
parents in the United States are women. The other 85% is made up of women,
grandparents and other relatives being in sole custody of children after a
divorce.
The
fathers in the "other 85%" often have little or no contact with their children.
The Department of Health and Human Services reports that "40% of children whose
fathers live outside the home have no contact with them." The children that do
see their fathers spend an average of only 69 days a year with them.
"Parental
Alienation vs. Our Family Court System
Some of
these men claim they are victims of "parental alienation," a term brought into
the media via the Baldwin case. Parental alienation is not a trendy catch
phrase; it is an actual condition that is a frequent side effect of contentious
divorces. A number of psychologists have written about it. Essentially, the
non-custodial parent's relationship with the children is damaged or destroyed
by the custodial parent's behavior. Those behaviors can range from making
derogatory remarks about the other parent to cutting off communication. Experts
say the child eventually adopts the attitude of custodial parent and either
mistreats or alienates the non-custodial parent.
Many
parents, particularly fathers, say this is common and often aggravated by our
legal system. A growing father's rights movement criticizes the U.S. and other Western nation's family court system for what it views as a bias towards
mothers. In particular, many courts favor geographic stability, meaning
children should stay in the home to which they are accustomed, in custody
decisions. Many times, this is the maternal home. If there is a conflict, or if
sole custody is given, the majority of the time courts give custody to the
mother.
The
Call for Reform
Groups
have been calling for legal reform in family law. The most notable change they
have asked for is a presumption that there ought to be 50/50 custody in divorce
case. Fathers' rights groups would like to see judges move from a sole custody
presumption which (they say) favors mothers, to a shared parenting presumption.
This issue
and some of the others advocated by father's rights groups have garnered
support. Live Aid Founder Bob Geldof and former UK home secretary David
Blunkett are among a growing number of men in the U.S. and abroad who have
shown support for the movement in the past. They may soon be able to count Alec
Baldwin as another high-profile member of the movement. He announced that he
wants to take a break from acting to dedicate his time to drawing attention to
the parental alienation and father's fights issues. His ability to draw
attention could help or hurt the movement, but that remains to be seen.